It is important to know that abuse is rarely a one time occurrence. It often happens many times, in a cycle.  

Domestic Violence is any violent or aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner

For comparison sake, the wheel below is a demonstration of healthy methods to conduct relationships.  


The wheel below is a demonstration of various forms of abuse.  


  • Abuser may apologize for abuse 
  • Abuser may promise it will never happen again 
  • Abuser may blame the victim for causing the abuse 
  • Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims



  • Abuser acts like the abuse never happened 
  • Physical abuse may not be taking place 
  • Promises made during 'making-up' may be met 
  • Victim may hope that the abuse is over 
  • Abuser may give gifts to victim
  • Abuser starts to get angry
  • Abuse may begin 
  • There is a breakdown of communication 
  • Victim feels the need to keep the abuser calm ‚Äč
  • Victim feels like they are 'walking on egg shells'

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Any type of abuse occurs